My 14th Year Old Daughter Mikaela Francesca

by - Tuesday, December 17, 2013

Dear Mikaela,

I am writing this post because I know that we will come to this point that I have to accept that you're a grown up child now. Now, I can't imagine having you in my tummy for nine months creating my life challenges and bring you from that day, learning to accept responsibilities and affirming that I can give you all your needs as a parent.

December 18, 1999
6:10 AM

Everything changes for good and something amazing as soon I held you in my arms. The hardest but yet the most beautiful, that my heart could hardly hold the excitement.  It was strange, I thought it's not real but I had dreamed this for so long. Waiting and preparing and finally you're here, everything just PERFECT! You did not give me a hard time to give birth, my water broke down and my contraction are in full force. 

I can still recall my eutopian experience. It was all just happening so fast and I never felt the pain during labor.

Same as fast that you no longer my little girl. I still have the glimpsed of you playing with your dolls and when you get excited when I come home from work. 
Sometimes I'm jealous the way you get to giggle with the small freebies I give you from Jollibee.

We've been to a rough relationship that is not that great. We weren't that close but your still there to stand by me as a big girl that is full of love and compassion and I
want you to know that I am blessed to have you.

I want to keep our communication line open. I know we're not the same era, you are more intelligent, observant, and insightful because of the new technologies that you've learned from school or on the internet.

But I want you to trust me, we have to learn to trust each other in the same way in dealing things.  I do know that RESPECT, COMPASSION and EMPATHY help a bit in most of a mother- daughter relationship.

I am not a perfect mother, nor do I aspire to be. I don't want to put myself in a pedestal claiming that I am a good mother to you. I am not perfect. 

I know that you are a responsible person. I know that you love your sister so dearly, though sometimes you have differences you're still there to protect her. You are the only people that I have now, the precious gifts that God given to me.

You're turning 14 and becoming an amazing young lady.  I love you so much Ate Mikay always have that lovely smile.  Always have that patience to me and your Mama Lola.

It's still important to listen without over-reacting.

Hoping for a fantastic day tomorrow in school. I know your friends have a surprised gift for you.

Happy Birthday Ate Mikaela Francesca!!!



You May Also Like


  1. Full emotion to reach out with your offspring that reaaly needs your guidance. keep it up woman.

  2. I am single but I am living near my brother who has 2 children and I can observe the same experience you're going through. Kids are growing fast and trying to be on their own.

    I am glad that you're taking care of your daughter responsibly. It goes to show you're a great mother. A good example for others. I hope mothers out there can be like you.

  3. I'm sure your daughter would really appreciate this letter especially as she grows older.

  4. aww :D this is so touching. I'd love to know the reaction of your daughter to this.

  5. A heartfelt piece Pal, sure you have a lovely daughter, she's so lucky to have a loving mom like you.

  6. Awww this is such a nice and touching entry! Happy birthday to your daughter :D

  7. awww... this is so sweet!!!! and happy birthday to you daughter! :)

  8. happy birthday to your dear daughter!!! i always feel nostalgic when my child's birthday comes too..
    leira from FBW